It’s Okay to Begin Again

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I truly have learned what it means to Start Over…To begin again. I remember thinking awhile back that it was so hard to start over, so hard to begin again. I have realized that it’s okay to begin again. We actually begin again each day we wake up. Each day we start a brand new day it is our opportunity to begin again. Often times we want to seclude ourselves to what occurred yesterday, last week, last month or even last year. I have learned that in order to grow to move forward in life we have to begin again. We have to learn how to start over.

 

This year alone I have learned how to raise two girls on my own, start a new job, restart a training/running plan. I realized on my run the other day that I am stronger, wiser, brighter, felt brand new. It was all because I decided that it was time to change up, it was time to start over again, to start fresh. Often times to get out of the rut that we feel like we are in we have to start fresh, we have to begin again. So don’t sit in the past, don’t dwell in what happened years ago. Start fresh today, begin again today!!!

 

 

Beyounique

Carpe Diem

 

 

Carpe Diem

I absolutely love this word, “Carpe Diem”  seize the day, seize the moment. Often times we get so caught up on what everything is going to look like, or we get caught up in what it should look like, how things should be. Instead we should be enjoying the moment, enjoying the present time, living in the present time. For me this was big because as life was handed to me I would think about what my life should look like. I would constantly ask myself,

What if I did this differently?

What if I do this?

What if I change this or change that?

Finally I had to shake myself and say, “Felicia, stop focusing on the what if’s, the should of, could of statements and start living in the now.”

Set your Intentions

Gabby Bernstein said it best, “Energy flows where your intention goes” Set your intentions on living in the moment, seizing the day. When we set our intentions on enjoying the journey, the day, the process then it becomes our reality, it becomes our here and now.  I know that in order to be happy, to not lose your mind you have to set your intentions on these two words, Carpe Diem…..seize the day!

 

So let’s all join in together and live in the moment….Enjoy this Day… Carpe Diem!

 

Stay Focused

Focus

 

Aah this one is a big one for me because I am easily distracted by the things that are going  around me. I tend to lose focus.. tend to lose focus on what my goals are.. lose focus on what I would like my end result to be. I have learned through the years that in order to be successful, in order to reach your goals, reach that end result you have to stay focused.

Distractions

Often times we get so distracted of what everyone else is doing, we begin to question whether or not we are being successful. We begin to question if we are doing things right. We ask ourselves

Do we need to change up something?

Do we need to just give up?

But what we often fail to realize is that we are not allowing ourselves to fulfill those goals, fulfill those dreams, fulfill those end results we are looking to gain because we are not focus on the task at hand. We are so worried about:

What everyone else is doing

Whether or not everyone else is a step ahead

Worried about whether or not we are just moving slow

We fail to realize that it is not that we can’t be successful, that we can’t fulfill that dream, it is because we are not focus on what we want, we are not focus on achieving the goal or dream that is set for us to achieve.

So stop comparing yourself to others, stop worrying about what others are doing, or how successful it may seem that other people are…Stay focused on your task, stay focused on your goal, stay focus on your end result that you would like to achieve. When we focus all of our energy, our time, our dedication and let it all play out that is when we start to see our lives unravel to where we want to be and who we want to be.

Focus on One Course

Stay humble and Stay Focused

 

Beyounique

What does FIT look like?

 

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So what does FIT look like?

It’s crazy as I was having this conversation today to someone about what is beautiful to them? What does it mean to be beautiful? What does it mean to look fit? Everyone has this common image in their head of what being FIT looks like. We compare ourselves to models and other images that social media has placed on us of what being FIT should look like.

I use to have the same image in my head of if I lose at least 20 more lbs then I will finally be FIT or look FIT. As I continued to work out and continued to fluctuate in weight I realized that I was chasing a destination not a way of life.

When I began this fitness journey I expected to look a certain way but as I continued to follow along with the journey I realized that fitness is not just physical. Fitness is a way of living, its creating a lifestyle that is healthy both physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally.When I began cross training more and really lifting weights I noticed my body was changing. I wasn’t skinny like I use to be, I was becoming thick. In my head I kept saying, “Fe you need to lose weight, you need to be in this size” Then I realized as I was putting my clothes on one day that my pants size was actually smaller than the size I was in before. I realize, “Fe you are healthy, you are strong now.” That is when it dawned on me that FIT doesn’t mean you are suppose to be certain size, it means that you are free of disease, you are healthy in both mind, body and spirit. I also began to realize the more that I focused on creating a healthy lifestyle for myself and my girls the more I became FIT.

So what does FIT look like for me?

You are looking at her……Healthy and Happy Person:)

 

I challenge you to find your FIT

XOXO

Beyounique

 

You Can’t Outrun Your Fork (#TeamBLKGRLFLY)

 

So how many times have you heard the statement, “You are what you eat” Well that is true. Often times in our fitness journey we get so stuck on how many miles we are running, or how much cardio we are getting in, or did we get that strength training workout in for today. Did you know…FIFTY percent of Black women develop Type 2 diabetes at some point during their lifetime (American Psychological Association), which means you can’t just workout. But what are we doing the rest of the day? How are we fueling our bodies from the workouts? What are we eating on the days we don’t get to the gym?

It’s a Puzzle Piece

Healthy Lifestyle is like a puzzle…..if there is one piece missing from the puzzle then that puzzle will not be complete. There are so many aspects that encompass a healthy lifestyle:

Mental Aspect

Physical Aspect

Nutrition

Spiritual Aspect

Did you know that each one of these categories can effect what you are putting on your plate? Not getting enough sleep…we typically resort to coffee, caffeinated drinks, food, snacks. What are you doing in each of this categories? How are you completing your puzzle piece? Is there a missing piece in your puzzle?

So the magic question is….How do I include all of these aspects into my healthy journey? How can I be a healthier me…looking and feeling great? Well it’s simply……But you’ll have to come check us out to here more about it…..

 

Join us on July 15th….

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More about this event…

The Beauty Standard’ is a weekend happening, taking place on Saturday, July 15th, in the Queen City of Charlotte, NC. This event highlights women of color— with a focus on beauty, hair and happiness, finances, as well as overall health and wellness!

 

Hope to see you there

 

 

I AM Transforming

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Wow these words mean a lot, it reminds me of the movie, “The Transformers.” How they would transform into these big time cars, fancy, extravagant cars fully armed and ready. That is how I feel about life. We can either choose to remain the same, stagnant, complacent or we can choose to transform. We can transform into a better version of ourselves or we can transform in the opposite direction. We each have a choice each and everyday. We can either choose to be better, to stay the same or to digress. What we choose will determine who we will become. Whether or not it is for that today, tomorrow or future. The decisions today will  not only effect us today but will effect who we will become, our future self. So choose wisely, choose for you, choose to be a Better Version of You, choose to transform into a New and Improve You, choose Love, Love for yourself. So how am I transforming. Each and everyday I make a choice to be Better, to do Better, to Love me more, to do things that uplift me. The most important thing I do each and everyday is I choose ME each and for that reason I am TRANSFORMING.

 

 

 

With Love and Transformation,

 

Felicia

 

 

What does FIT look like?

 

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So what does FIT look like?

Everyone has this common image in their head of what being FIT looks like. We compare ourselves to models and other images that social media has placed on us of what being FIT should look like.

I use to have the same image in my head of if I lose at least 20 more lbs then I will finally be FIT or look FIT. As I continued to work out and continued to fluctuate in weight I realized that I was chasing a destination not a way of life.

When I began this fitness journey I expected to look a certain way but as I continued to follow along with the journey I realized that fitness is not just physical. Fitness is a way of living, its creating a lifestyle that is healthy both physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally. I also began to realize the more that I focused on creating a healthy lifestyle for myself and my girls the more I became FIT.

So what does FIT look like for me?

You are looking at her……Healthy and Happy Person:)

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I challenge you to find your FIT

XOXO

Felicia

How Meditation Can Help Improve Your Physical Health

 

 

So often when we think about meditation we think about breath and how it can help our emotional health. But not only can meditation improve our emotional health but also our physical health as well.

What happens when we have emotions or we are going through stress?

We typically hold our emotions in our bellies. Often times instead of feeling our emotions we will store them away with the hopes that the emotions will go away. But in actuality what is happening when we leave our emotions in our bellies we are causing discomfort, stress and actually increasing the chances of unhealthiness.

Meditation is designed to dive into the inner self, releasing tension and stress. It is designed to really tap into YOU. The breath in meditation it helps calm and relax our bodies which help decrease stress in our lives.

When we allow ourselves to really tap into our inner self we then can begin to release tension, stress, frustration, disappointment or whatever emotions we may have inside. Meditation not only allows us to release the emotional stress but also help in coping with it whenever it occurs again.

So how does Meditation improve our physical health?

Practicing meditation allow us to tap into our inner self through breath. It allows us to let go of the emotional stress that can cause decreases physical health. In addition, it provides an avenue and alternative in coping with stress.

Tap into your inner self, release that tension and stress you have been holding on and TRY MEDITATION.

 

Beyounique

Are you Consistent?

 

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So how many times do you check your notifications on facebook?

How many times do you scroll through facebook during the day?

How many times do you pick up your phone to check your text messages?

Often times we can be very consistent with the daily world of electronics. I have found myself often times as soon as my phone makes that “ding” noise I am constantly checking it to see what messages have gone through. Who text me? What are they talking about in the group messages? We become so consistent in the electronic world but are we consistent in our self care, self nurturing world. Are we consistent in our daily time with ourselves. Do we take time out during the day just to focus on ME, YOU? Do we take time to breathe, stretch and relax from the craziness of the world. This week take time for YOU, notice if you are spending so much time devoted to the social media craze. Notice if how much time you spend unplugged. Unplug yourself for at least 1 hour and spend that hour relaxing, exercising, meditating, stretching, simply loving on YOU.

It’s time to be consistent with our self care, self nurturing, self love for ourselves.

Consistency

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Often times in our fitness journey we get frustrated, we get tired of not seeing results, we lose confidence in ourselves because we don’t feel like we are succeeding. I have experience that so many times and really experience it after suffering from my injury. Approximately 8 months ago and tore my plantar fascia and suffered from plantar fasciitis. Well I had races that I was already scheduled to run so I proceeded to finish out my racing season.

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Well finally in January I said it is time to let this foot heal. So that is what I did. I started physical therapy at Architech Sports, I continued to do crossfit at Crossfit Axon but did everything with modifications. During this process I felt like I was at a stump, I felt like I wasn’t progressing. The pain went from one foot to the other foot. I felt as if I would never get better and that I would have to end my running. Something that I love so much, something that brings serenity to my heart. But I said No Felicia do everything you can do in getting better and then just go from there. I was at ease that if I could never run races again that I would find something else to do. I would venture off and find new loves. Well I stayed consistent with my therapy, my workout routine. I began to try new things, try new ways of training. Well needless to say I began to truly find myself and find out some other ways to engage in fitness that I loved. I began to really find my true strengths.

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So what am I doing now?

  • I am still running, just trying a new running style
  • I am still doing crossfit (actually hitting some serious PR’s)
  • I am still doing other things {love hiking, rockclimbing(indoor that is….lol)…and who knows what else}

So why go through my life story?

I’m telling you this to let you know that despite what downfalls or setbacks you may experience…Stay consistent…Stay focused on your goals, Don’t give up, Stay with it. It will pay off.

 

With Love,

 

Beyounique