Be willing to come APART


So often we try hard to create this life that is spotless or that is wrinkle free but we all have wrinkles, we all have spots that are in our lives. It is the spots and wrinkles that help us become stronger. So think about it you have a nice dress that is wrinkled or pants that is wrinkled now the majority of us would not just leave it wrinkled because we want to look presentable, we want to look like we somewhat care about ourselves:) So we straighten it and we go out there like a million bucks….. Do individuals know that the dress or pants had wrinkles in it?  No, because we don’t show them that we spent time cleaning it up nice so that they wouldn’t know that there were wrinkles. It is the same way with our lives we have flaws, we have wrinkles, we have spots that we choose to not show because of the thought of being judge the wrong way or the thought that someone may look at you differently if you are not put together. So where and the heck am I going with all this. Realize that each one of us have those times in our lives that we have wrinkles or flaws it is okay to not be perfect it is okay to come apart. Be willing to show people your true side, the real you, the not so put together person. Realize that there is someone out there going through the same thing that you may be going through and they need to know that it is okay to not be perfect all time but to be okay with that. To be okay with not knowing it all, or having all of the answers, or not being the the perfect shape, size, eye color, hair color. It is okay, Be You, Be Imperfectly Perfect, Be open to your flaws, Be happy with your wrinkles or spots. It is with these wrinkles and spots that help us to become STRONG and powerful individuals. When we begin to accept who we are and the flaws in our lives we begin to be happy with ourselves, we begin to love ourselves for who we are, we begin to be confident in the skin we are in, we truly begin to LIVE. So stop hiding behind the wrinkles and spots…. Be willing to come apart and show Who you really are? Stay True to who you are..Don’t change just because of the spots or wrinkles.. Shine bright in your imperfections because it is our imperfections that help create who we are TODAY…And by the way You never know you may love that person better:)



Stay True & Be You



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Embracing the Present YOU

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So I often speak about this but in our fitness journey we are often taunted with our past or with the notion of what we can not do. However, we never really take the time to embrace the moment that we are in, the accomplishments we have made thus far. We are our biggest critics and we often put so much pressure on ourselves that instead of it encouraging ourselves we provide discouragement. We often times let social media take control over our lives that we begin comparing. We start looking at what others are doing and think we are less than because of what we haven’t accomplished. We begin to categorized ourselves based off of not only fitness accomplishments but our overall life accomplishments. The one thing that we fail to realize as we are doing this that someone else is looking at us the same way. They are looking at our accomplishments wishing they were where we are. The cycle just continues on and on and on. But we must stop and really look at ourselves. Stop and focus on where we are, what we have accomplished thus far.

As I glance at this photo that was taken a year ago I begin to really be amazed at the sky and how beautiful it is. I also begin to really focus on the water and how peaceful it seems. I said to myself, “Wow this is simply beautiful”; just caught in the present moment of it’s beauty. So I really begin to equate this to our lives and thought to myself if I would just take a moment each day before I get started with my day and  really embrace ME, LOVE ME and really begin to give compliments to myself. Do you know how motivating, invigorating and encouraging that would feel? Do you think I would have a positive outlook on what I have to do for that day? Of course I would, what people often fail to realize is that this healthy journey and lifestyle is not all about just how many workouts can you do; this journey is about mentally how do you feel about yourself. Do you tear yourself down each and everyday? Do you love yourself for who you are on THIS day?

So take time out each day and really sit back and Embrace the Present YOU! Be grateful, thankful and Love the NEW YOU.

  • Love the changes your body is going through even if it is not where it needs to be.
  • Love who you have become both inner and outer.
  • Love the fact that you care so much about your health and your body that you chose to change your life.
  • Love the downfalls that you have gone through as it has only made you stronger.
  • Love and Embrace the flaws, the things that you hope to change
  • Love the inner strength you have to get up each and everyday and face this thing called LIFE

So I ask you to really LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY but in order to do that you must first Embrace the Present YOU!


With love,



How Meditation Can Help Improve Your Physical Health



So often when we think about meditation we think about breath and how it can help our emotional health. But not only can meditation improve our emotional health but also our physical health as well.

What happens when we have emotions or we are going through stress?

We typically hold our emotions in our bellies. Often times instead of feeling our emotions we will store them away with the hopes that the emotions will go away. But in actuality what is happening when we leave our emotions in our bellies we are causing discomfort, stress and actually increasing the chances of unhealthiness.

Meditation is designed to dive into the inner self, releasing tension and stress. It is designed to really tap into YOU. The breath in meditation it helps calm and relax our bodies which help decrease stress in our lives.

When we allow ourselves to really tap into our inner self we then can begin to release tension, stress, frustration, disappointment or whatever emotions we may have inside. Meditation not only allows us to release the emotional stress but also help in coping with it whenever it occurs again.

So how does Meditation improve our physical health?

Practicing meditation allow us to tap into our inner self through breath. It allows us to let go of the emotional stress that can cause decreases physical health. In addition, it provides an avenue and alternative in coping with stress.

Tap into your inner self, release that tension and stress you have been holding on and TRY MEDITATION.



It’s Okay to Begin Again


I truly have learned what it means to Start Over…To begin again. I remember thinking awhile back that it was so hard to start over, so hard to begin again. I have realized that it’s okay to begin again. We actually begin again each day we wake up. Each day we start a brand new day it is our opportunity to begin again. Often times we want to seclude ourselves to what occurred yesterday, last week, last month or even last year. I have learned that in order to grow to move forward in life we have to begin again. We have to learn how to start over.


Last year alone I have learned how to raise two girls on my own, start a new job, restart a training/running plan. I realized on my run the other day that I am stronger, wiser, brighter, felt brand new. It was all because I decided that it was time to change up how I was doing things, take time out to gain knowledge on areas that I needed to work on, it was time to start over again, to start fresh. I took time off away from personal social media, from scrolling and seeing what everyone else was doing in the world. I needed to focus on me, focus on the life that I want to create. Often times to get out of the rut that we feel like we are in we have to start fresh, we have to begin again.  I have constantly said that sometimes you have to have meltdowns to have your breakthrough. So don’t sit in the past, don’t dwell in what happened years ago, don’t dwell in what you could have done, what you should have done, what you did in the past; start fresh today, begin again today!!!




I Just Don’t Have Time

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Have you ever heard yourself say this, “I just don’t have time” when you are trying to create a workout plan or trying to train for a race or simple start to engage in fitness? If not then, WOW, that’s awesome. I know that I have said this plenty of times.

So how do I do it?

How do I workout, take care of two girls, work a full time job and take care of other family duties? I plan, I take time to sit down and plan out my workouts, my weekly schedules, my family schedules. I am not claiming to have the best time management skills or the best regime. I include my family into my fitness. When you show your little ones, older ones the importance of taking care of themselves you are instilling a healthy lifestyle mindset that will be a huge benefit as they get older.


Why schedule time to workout?

I was definitely the one who said you know what, “I just don’t have the time, I am neglecting my family time with my girls, it is just wrong for me to take time out for me.” Well if you are thinking the same way I was thinking then the answer is NO it is not wrong, NO you are not neglecting your family and YES you do have time.

Start from where you are?

Often times we look at working out as it has to look a certain way. We have to work out at least 5 days a week for a hour in order to say we have done something. Well what if you only have 20 minutes into your day? Plan something that will accommodate your schedule. If you only have 15 minutes then plan a killer interval workout that accommodates. It is the small steps that we take that creates the big change. Start small and where you are and build from there.


So why is it so important?


I will speak on a mother, woman perspective; as mothers we always spend so much time nurturing others, taking care of others, making sure that other people (family, friends, etc..) have what they need. However, we never take the time out for ourselves. We never engage in self-nurturing. Now do we have to workout in order to engage in self-nurturing? No, but that stress that you may be dealing with or that feeling of low self-esteem, low self-confidence that you may be experiencing, taking time out to workout, to engage in some form of fitness will help with building your self esteem, self confidence and that stress we deal with each and every day.

So stop telling yourself that you just don’t have time. Start telling yourself that you need to make time. Take time for YOU. Take time to help build yourself up both inside and outside. In order to be that strong person in your family you have to take care of yourself first. Yes you have to be a little selfish so that you can be that person you need to be for your family. So stop what you are doing and Start making time for YOU.  I read a great saying the other day, “Your body is a temple, stop treating it like a graveyard”






Set Intentions Versus Resolutions


So it’s that time of year again where everyone begins to tackle that very thing that they keep or have struggled with in the past. They began to make their New Year Resolution….most common one being “to lose weight”. The gyms are preparing to be packed, the studios in preparation of classes being filled with individuals who have set out to make that New Year Resolution. And then it happens……30 days later, 60 days later, 90 days later the hopes of achieving that New Year Resolution begins to fade away. People get the feeling of lost hope, or they just quit. They start to doubt themselves and feel as if they have failed themselves. Why? because of the notion that if you don’t achieve that New Year Resolution you have lost the battle, lost the fight.

I say NO to the New Year Resolution and say YES to intentions. Intentions are things that you create to help better yourself as an individual, as a person.

What does that look like?

I set the intentions each and everyday to be a better version of myself. Do I relapse some days or have some bad days?  Heck Yeah, but guess what? I start all over again the next day. Everyday is a new day to begin again. It is a new day to start over. When you set intentions on becoming better each day you are giving your self a cushion to fall to fail but yet also a chance to learn from the mistakes, the falls and mishaps. Socrates says it best, “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new. So stop trying to fight the old with New Year Resolutions but let’s set the intentions on building the new. How do you do this? by striving each and everyday to become a healthier you, better version of you.


With love,



What are you waiting for?




So it’s that time of the year where everyone is planning of the new year. We are getting that planner out we are setting our fitness goals for next year. We already have a big scheme and ideas of what days we are going to work out, what days we are going to work on what, the challenges that we are going to participate in. We are pumped and ready to change for 2018.

So let me ask you a question….

What about now?

What are you waiting on?

Why do we have to prepare for the new year?

Who says that we have to wait until 2018 to start fresh, to start brand new. Why not start now? This is the question that I was even asking myself as it related to not only fitness but other areas of my life. I said to myself Felicia why do you have to wait until the new year to begin again. Each and everyday we wake up is a brand new opportunity to begin again. It is an opportunity to start over to create goals for ourselves. We are our biggest hindrance of our goals, we are what stops us from achieving our goals.


Because we feel as if we have to start at a certain time, we feel like our situation have to look a certain way. We are waiting on that perfect time, perfect opportunity to begin again, to start over. So what if your life is a mess right now, So what if you feel like you don’t have it all together. This is the perfect time to begin again, this is the perfect time to create a better version of you….So stop waiting on that miraculous new year…Today is your Day…Lace up…Show up for YOU..You deserve it…You deserve to be a better version of YOU…So I ask again What are you waiting for? 




Get out of your HEAD!!!!



How many times have you missed an exit or a turn because your mind was somewhere else? Or how many times have you forgot where you were going because you were thinking so hard or in your thoughts? I had that moment today actually, I missed my turn twice because I was in my thoughts thinking of the “What if’s” the “if I could do things differently I would”. Did that change my situation? Did it make things better? Actually no. Then I realized, you know what, while I’m so in my head thinking of the “What if’s” then I missed out on the ” What is” that was happening.

So what am I saying?

Stop being so caught up in the “What if’s” the “I should have” and just LIVE. In fitness we can beat ourselves up so bad because of not meeting a goal or thinking; “Well what if I don’t get that goal or that PR time?” I have realized in my fitness journey the less time I spend focusing on the “What if’s” the more the “What is” began to show up in my life. The more the goals were met because I was focused on what I can do in the here and now, at this moment versus focus on the what I should have done or what I could do. So stop stunting your strength, get out of your HEAD. Start living in the Here and Now and watch how you achieve those goals.

So who cares if you took time off for the Thanksgiving holiday and you did absolutely nothing. Does that change anything about you…Heck No. Sometimes we need those small breaks in our lives. Sometimes we need those detours to get us relax and able to refocus. So don’t dwell or beat yourself up if you enjoyed yourself over the past Holiday. Today is a new day..Today is a brand new day to start over again. Today is your day…Your day to begin again…Stop dwelling on the what if’s and now let’s focus on the What is!!!!

With love


Start Where You Are



Often times in our  journey of life we feel like we need to be at a certain area in our lives before we can begin. I’m bad at this you see I was an perfectionist so before  beginning anything I always felt the need that I had to be in a perfect place, perfect situation, perfect time in my life. What I’ve learn through my  healthy journey is that it is not about being at a  certain fitness level  before beginning, it was about starting where I was. When I  finally decided that then that’s when my hard, rough, challenging days were some of my best days. Its when I developed consistency, its, when I began to grow, when I began to soar from where I was that I began to blossomed, I began to truly see the fruits of my labor. So don’t wait till the perfect time; like Arthur Ashe states, “Start where you are today, Use what you have. Do what you can today.






Are you Consistent?


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So how many times do you check your notifications on facebook?

How many times do you scroll through facebook during the day?

How many times do you pick up your phone to check your text messages?

Often times we can be very consistent with the daily world of electronics. I have found myself often times as soon as my phone makes that “ding” noise I am constantly checking it to see what messages have gone through. Who text me? What are they talking about in the group messages? We become so consistent in the electronic world but are we consistent in our self care, self nurturing world. Are we consistent in our daily time with ourselves. Do we take time out during the day just to focus on ME, YOU? Do we take time to breathe, stretch and relax from the craziness of the world. This week take time for YOU, notice if you are spending so much time devoted to the social media craze. Notice if how much time you spend unplugged. Unplug yourself for at least 1 hour and spend that hour relaxing, exercising, meditating, stretching, simply loving on YOU.

It’s time to be consistent with our self care, self nurturing, self love for ourselves. Don’t until your New’s Year Resolution…Start today