Savor the Moment

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Often times we get in the hustle and bustle of life and oddly enough my meditation today was all about stretching. At first I see these words and naturally think of stretching when you are trying to release a tight muscle or stretching because you don’t want to have any cramps or tightness in your body.

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But this is a different type of stretching but holds the same meaning. When we stretch our bodies or a muscle we are stretching to help release tension and we are holding that pose for an extending period of time. Often times after holding a stretch we feel a sense of relief, we feel like a new person, simply a new feeling.

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Well the kind of stretching I am referring to is different. This type of stretching deals with the moments in our lives.  As a society we have this on the go type feeling where we are always at a need to move, to go. But what if we stop for one moment and just stretched out the present moment, we live in the present state as long as we possibly can.

What would happen?

I’ll tell you what would happen we would experience things like no other, we would notice the beauty in that moment, it will allow us to cherish that moment. We would find peace and a sense of relief within that moment.

Why?

Because we are stretching out that moment, we are truly learning and embracing the present moment. This is the type of stretching that we need to do with our lives each and everyday. Take time out each day to release the habit of always on the go but get into the habit of embracing each present moment.

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Stretching out each present moment so that we can experience it fully, 100%. So the next time your mind is wanting to go so many miles per minute. Take a second and just stretch out the present moment. See what you see, feel what you feel, embrace everything that moment has to offer. Just as stretching will help release tension in your body physically it can do the same thing mentally. Mentally it can help relieve tension in your mind and allow you to truly wholeheartedly enjoy the moment. So I invite you to not only stretch physically but let’s practice stretching mentally.

 

 

Beyounique

The Year of Completeness

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So back from my hiatus I was inspired by a post that I wrote this time last year and as I was reading this post it really spoke to me. As I prepare this week to detach from the world…to embark on something that I would have never even imagine that I would have done. Then it dawned on me Felicia through it all you have grown, you have so much to be thankful for. It seemed like during the past couple of years I had more bad days than good days. But honestly it was through all those crazy days that I was able to truly define who I am, able to really see what God has in store, really able to see how my life is a testimony for others. See we often times think of this image of what a healthy life looks like but what we fail to realize healthy doesn’t just mean outward appearance but are you healthy from the inside out. So in celebration of my life I wanted to recap my past years so you can see that even while you are going through it may seem like there is no light at the end of the tunnel; it is there you just have to be patient.

Recap of Year 36

This is NOT OK

So almost 2 years back I was running my long run of 13 miles with my #runhomie and it just seemed like nothing that morning was going right. I had to stop several times to use the restroom, the gas station I normally stop at the employee was on break so I couldn’t use the restroom; so I had to proceed on with my run. If you have ever tried to run and you have to use the restroom then you know what I am talking about, not the best feeling ever. Then as I was running my heel begin to bother me; well at first I was like it just seems tight so I will keep running to see if it loosens up; well it did. Then I proceeded to run and it did just that it started to loosen up so I began to think okay well this is not going to be as bad as I thought.

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Ummmm I was rudely awakened

I get about at the half way point of the run and of course we are out there so the only back is to just walk all the way back or run back. So I proceeded to run back.

Then it happened

I get back to my car and when I stopped I could feel it. It was not good, I was not okay.

So then I did what was the right thing to do, I went to the doctor and they told me I had a heel spur and also plantar fascitis.

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I said to myself really not something else again, my exact words were, “Why can I not be GREAT?

So at this point I felt like there was so much going on in my life, from single motherhood to dealing with beginning stages of divorce, managing a job, two girls, one income, training and just LIFE.

I was forced to face reality, I was forced to say Fe you are not okay but guess what you will be okay.

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So I began to start the healing process, began doing rehab and just trying to battle my way back. I knew I had other races lined up for the rest of the year and also the beginning of the year.

So I did what doctors ordered and when it was time I battled back. Well meanwhile during all this time of course life doesn’t just throw you one lemon but several lemons. So after completing all the races I was signed up for I finally said enough is enough Felicia it is time to really focus on you and get healthy. So I spent 6 months through physical therapy all while going through so many changes in my life….new job, selling my home, new home, divorce and just simply motherhood. I mean you name it everything that you can imagine someone going through I was going through it all. But one thing that I kept telling myself is that Felicia it will be okay. It is okay if it seems like your life is a mess right now. It doesn’t mean that you are going to always stay in that state.

See we all have this thing called pride that often times we have to face. We are ashamed of saying,

“You know what I am struggling today.”

“You know what I am having an OFF day today”

or

“You know what I am not OK at this moment”

What makes us stronger is the ability to recognize that and know that we will not be in that state very long.

To know that there is HOPE

To know that everything will be OK

To know that it is okay to have those days

To know that it is those days that help build us, help make us stronger

 

So what did I learn?

I learn that it is okay to not be OK.

It is okay to have an OFF day.

It is okay to say I am having an OFF day.

It is okay to say I am struggling right now.

What else did I learn?

It is when we face that everything is not OK that is when we BUILD when we get STRONGER and that is when we begin to have HOPE that even though at this very moment in time it may not be okay but I know that everything will be okay.

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So here is to this craziness called Life, to lessons learn, to overcoming battles. Despite how things may seem or just seems like you can’t catch a break. It’s okay to not be okay the key is to not stay in that place. Dust yourself off and keep moving forward.

So now fastfoward to the year of 37….Why such a big meaning? 3 defines divine protection/guidance and 7 is completeness (both physically and spiritually) That is what Beyounique is all about is developing: STRONG MIND + STRONG SPIRIT= STRONG BODY (Completeness)

So what better way to display this than to go clear across the country and detach myself from the world and do what I absolutely love doing which is Yoga and Meditation. So as I begin my journey today in Bali, Indonesia know that despite whatever you may be going through there is hope, there is peace, there is a NEW DAY. In order to rebuild on a solid foundation sometimes we have to tear down the bad, the ugly, the not so good things that are lingering in our lives. So don’t give up on your dreams, don’t say I CAN’T dust yourself off and I say just because I can’t right now doesn’t mean I can’t it just means in due time I WILL.

And that my friends is the equation and solution for a HEALTHY LIFESTYLE.

 

With love

Felicia

 

 

Go out and BE GREAT!

 

 

 

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It’s a new day, start of a new week, new journey, new You. So what are you waiting for? Are you waiting for approval? Are you waiting for someone to say You can Do It? Are you waiting for someone to discredit you or say you can’t do it. Don’t wait for approval. Don’t wait for someone to say you can do it. Go out and do it.. Go out and be Great. I remember a time when I always waited for others approval or I waited to see if anyone would congratulate me on whatever I did. If I felt as if no one congratulated me then I thought wow I must not have been great at it or I must have not done a great job. Why do we wait on others to validate us? Why do we wait on others to say good job? We wait or we thrive off of that because it makes us feel loved, it makes us feel accepted, it makes us feel that we belong, that we are somebody. So I am here to tell you stop waiting on others validations. Stop waiting for others to give you praise on your accomplishments. Go out and BE GREAT whatever that may look like, whatever it may feel like, no matter what anyone else says, no matter if anyone else sees it as a GREAT. IT IS GREAT, anything that you do that is bringing out the better version of YOU is being GREAT. So stop sitting back waiting on someone else to tell you to be GREAT. Go out and BE GREAT on your own:)

Love

Felicia

Happiness

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So everyone wants to be happy, everyone wants to live a happy life but what does that look like? We are always caught up in what happiness should look like instead of realizing that happiness lies from within.

When I was younger I was like most little girls I dreamed that one day I would be famous and I would have this perfect life, with the perfect husband and perfect kids and just perfect fairy tale story. As I got older I quickly realized that there is no such thing as perfection. I never knew while I was growing up that I would face weight problems, depression, separation, anxiety, disappointment, single motherhood. That was never part of the picture. As I have gone through these things I have learned what true happiness is and what it is not.

I realized that happiness is not what we think that our life should look like, happiness is accepting where we are now and enjoying the life that we have now.

Why all of this talk about Happiness?

So as I went through all of these points in my life I realized that the reason that I was experiencing the weight gain, the depression, the anxiety, the stress issues is because I was not HAPPY, I thought my life was an uttermost mess because this wasn’t the picture of what Happiness is suppose to look like. As I have learned each and everyday is that we Create our Happiness. The more that we create our Happiness on our own level the happier we are.

So stop dwelling on what your life is suppose to look like or how you are suppose to be and embrace who you are today, be happy of what you have gone through and where you are today. Because that is what Creates your  Happiness.

 

How does this relate to fitness?

Well when you are unhappy you begin to stress, eat more, not eat at all, become less fit.

Stress= creates unhealthiness

Eating too much of bad foods= create unhealthiness

Not eating enough=create unhealthiness

Not engaging in physical activity= create unhealthines

 

So…………………………….

Tired of that weight gain, well do something about it. 

Tired of the depression and anxiety, do something about it.

Tired of not getting the results, do something about it.

Tired of not being happy, well stop and think why am I not happy.

 

We make the choice, we can choose to be happy or we can choose to live in the same state of being. Once we embrace and choose the happiness that is right in front of our faces the happier we will be, the healthier we will be, the more we will achieve the goals that we are setting out to achieve.

 

Strong mind + Strong Spirit= Strong Body

 

Enjoy the life you are living at this moment and time

 

With love and happiness,

Felicia

Don’t Stop Writing Your Story

 

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So often we set goals and we strive hard each and every day to achieve those goals. We train hard, we eat right, we change our schedules, our lives changed dramatically just so that we can complete that goal. And so we finally get to that day where we are finally ready to achieve that goal we have worked so hard for each and everyday. We do it! We did it! We completed that goal, We celebrate, we return back to our normal schedule or somewhat normal schedule. Then we realized wow what we have just accomplished; the goal we have just completed.

So now what?

Often times I get stuck in this……. what do I do next? Sometimes I stop completely from doing anything even related to my fitness or goals. So I ask myself,  “Why did you stop writing your story? This thing we call life is one big book filled with blank pages. What am I going to put in those pages? Am I going to wait until someone tells me what they think I should put in those papers? Heck NO! if I do that then how is that living my life purposefully. So each and everyday I strive to continue to write my story. I have only touch the first two pages of my book, there are so many other things out there for me to do. My story isn’t done yet, my full potential has not been met. I don’t want my book to be complete until I find my purpose here in this life. I want my book to  be filled with POTENTIAL not pages that say well she was going to do it but she was fearful, or heartbroken or dismayed, boggled down. I don’t want a book like that.  So as I often tell myself this very same thing, I am telling you. Don’t live a life that is fullfilling others dreams, write your own story. Continue writing your story until you have reach your full potential. We staggered our success because we just STOP writing our story. So how do I avoid that…..Well it is simple……DON’T stop writing your story. You have so much more to give to the world so let’s continue to give it.

 

With love,

 

Beyounique

Be willing to come APART

 

So often we try hard to create this life that is spotless or that is wrinkle free but we all have wrinkles, we all have spots that are in our lives. It is the spots and wrinkles that help us become stronger. So think about it you have a nice dress that is wrinkled or pants that is wrinkled now the majority of us would not just leave it wrinkled because we want to look presentable, we want to look like we somewhat care about ourselves:) So we straighten it and we go out there like a million bucks….. Do individuals know that the dress or pants had wrinkles in it?  No, because we don’t show them that we spent time cleaning it up nice so that they wouldn’t know that there were wrinkles. It is the same way with our lives we have flaws, we have wrinkles, we have spots that we choose to not show because of the thought of being judge the wrong way or the thought that someone may look at you differently if you are not put together. So where and the heck am I going with all this. Realize that each one of us have those times in our lives that we have wrinkles or flaws it is okay to not be perfect it is okay to come apart. Be willing to show people your true side, the real you, the not so put together person. Realize that there is someone out there going through the same thing that you may be going through and they need to know that it is okay to not be perfect all time but to be okay with that. To be okay with not knowing it all, or having all of the answers, or not being the the perfect shape, size, eye color, hair color. It is okay, Be You, Be Imperfectly Perfect, Be open to your flaws, Be happy with your wrinkles or spots. It is with these wrinkles and spots that help us to become STRONG and powerful individuals. When we begin to accept who we are and the flaws in our lives we begin to be happy with ourselves, we begin to love ourselves for who we are, we begin to be confident in the skin we are in, we truly begin to LIVE. So stop hiding behind the wrinkles and spots…. Be willing to come apart and show Who you really are? Stay True to who you are..Don’t change just because of the spots or wrinkles.. Shine bright in your imperfections because it is our imperfections that help create who we are TODAY…And by the way You never know you may love that person better:)

 

 

Stay True & Be You

 

 

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Felicia

Embracing the Present YOU

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So I often speak about this but in our fitness journey we are often taunted with our past or with the notion of what we can not do. However, we never really take the time to embrace the moment that we are in, the accomplishments we have made thus far. We are our biggest critics and we often put so much pressure on ourselves that instead of it encouraging ourselves we provide discouragement. We often times let social media take control over our lives that we begin comparing. We start looking at what others are doing and think we are less than because of what we haven’t accomplished. We begin to categorized ourselves based off of not only fitness accomplishments but our overall life accomplishments. The one thing that we fail to realize as we are doing this that someone else is looking at us the same way. They are looking at our accomplishments wishing they were where we are. The cycle just continues on and on and on. But we must stop and really look at ourselves. Stop and focus on where we are, what we have accomplished thus far.

As I glance at this photo that was taken a year ago I begin to really be amazed at the sky and how beautiful it is. I also begin to really focus on the water and how peaceful it seems. I said to myself, “Wow this is simply beautiful”; just caught in the present moment of it’s beauty. So I really begin to equate this to our lives and thought to myself if I would just take a moment each day before I get started with my day and  really embrace ME, LOVE ME and really begin to give compliments to myself. Do you know how motivating, invigorating and encouraging that would feel? Do you think I would have a positive outlook on what I have to do for that day? Of course I would, what people often fail to realize is that this healthy journey and lifestyle is not all about just how many workouts can you do; this journey is about mentally how do you feel about yourself. Do you tear yourself down each and everyday? Do you love yourself for who you are on THIS day?

So take time out each day and really sit back and Embrace the Present YOU! Be grateful, thankful and Love the NEW YOU.

  • Love the changes your body is going through even if it is not where it needs to be.
  • Love who you have become both inner and outer.
  • Love the fact that you care so much about your health and your body that you chose to change your life.
  • Love the downfalls that you have gone through as it has only made you stronger.
  • Love and Embrace the flaws, the things that you hope to change
  • Love the inner strength you have to get up each and everyday and face this thing called LIFE

So I ask you to really LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY but in order to do that you must first Embrace the Present YOU!

 

With love,

 

Felicia

How Meditation Can Help Improve Your Physical Health

 

 

So often when we think about meditation we think about breath and how it can help our emotional health. But not only can meditation improve our emotional health but also our physical health as well.

What happens when we have emotions or we are going through stress?

We typically hold our emotions in our bellies. Often times instead of feeling our emotions we will store them away with the hopes that the emotions will go away. But in actuality what is happening when we leave our emotions in our bellies we are causing discomfort, stress and actually increasing the chances of unhealthiness.

Meditation is designed to dive into the inner self, releasing tension and stress. It is designed to really tap into YOU. The breath in meditation it helps calm and relax our bodies which help decrease stress in our lives.

When we allow ourselves to really tap into our inner self we then can begin to release tension, stress, frustration, disappointment or whatever emotions we may have inside. Meditation not only allows us to release the emotional stress but also help in coping with it whenever it occurs again.

So how does Meditation improve our physical health?

Practicing meditation allow us to tap into our inner self through breath. It allows us to let go of the emotional stress that can cause decreases physical health. In addition, it provides an avenue and alternative in coping with stress.

Tap into your inner self, release that tension and stress you have been holding on and TRY MEDITATION.

 

Beyounique

It’s Okay to Begin Again

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I truly have learned what it means to Start Over…To begin again. I remember thinking awhile back that it was so hard to start over, so hard to begin again. I have realized that it’s okay to begin again. We actually begin again each day we wake up. Each day we start a brand new day it is our opportunity to begin again. Often times we want to seclude ourselves to what occurred yesterday, last week, last month or even last year. I have learned that in order to grow to move forward in life we have to begin again. We have to learn how to start over.

 

Last year alone I have learned how to raise two girls on my own, start a new job, restart a training/running plan. I realized on my run the other day that I am stronger, wiser, brighter, felt brand new. It was all because I decided that it was time to change up how I was doing things, take time out to gain knowledge on areas that I needed to work on, it was time to start over again, to start fresh. I took time off away from personal social media, from scrolling and seeing what everyone else was doing in the world. I needed to focus on me, focus on the life that I want to create. Often times to get out of the rut that we feel like we are in we have to start fresh, we have to begin again.  I have constantly said that sometimes you have to have meltdowns to have your breakthrough. So don’t sit in the past, don’t dwell in what happened years ago, don’t dwell in what you could have done, what you should have done, what you did in the past; start fresh today, begin again today!!!

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Beyounique

I Just Don’t Have Time

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Have you ever heard yourself say this, “I just don’t have time” when you are trying to create a workout plan or trying to train for a race or simple start to engage in fitness? If not then, WOW, that’s awesome. I know that I have said this plenty of times.

So how do I do it?

How do I workout, take care of two girls, work a full time job and take care of other family duties? I plan, I take time to sit down and plan out my workouts, my weekly schedules, my family schedules. I am not claiming to have the best time management skills or the best regime. I include my family into my fitness. When you show your little ones, older ones the importance of taking care of themselves you are instilling a healthy lifestyle mindset that will be a huge benefit as they get older.

 

Why schedule time to workout?

I was definitely the one who said you know what, “I just don’t have the time, I am neglecting my family time with my girls, it is just wrong for me to take time out for me.” Well if you are thinking the same way I was thinking then the answer is NO it is not wrong, NO you are not neglecting your family and YES you do have time.

Start from where you are?

Often times we look at working out as it has to look a certain way. We have to work out at least 5 days a week for a hour in order to say we have done something. Well what if you only have 20 minutes into your day? Plan something that will accommodate your schedule. If you only have 15 minutes then plan a killer interval workout that accommodates. It is the small steps that we take that creates the big change. Start small and where you are and build from there.

 

So why is it so important?

 

I will speak on a mother, woman perspective; as mothers we always spend so much time nurturing others, taking care of others, making sure that other people (family, friends, etc..) have what they need. However, we never take the time out for ourselves. We never engage in self-nurturing. Now do we have to workout in order to engage in self-nurturing? No, but that stress that you may be dealing with or that feeling of low self-esteem, low self-confidence that you may be experiencing, taking time out to workout, to engage in some form of fitness will help with building your self esteem, self confidence and that stress we deal with each and every day.

So stop telling yourself that you just don’t have time. Start telling yourself that you need to make time. Take time for YOU. Take time to help build yourself up both inside and outside. In order to be that strong person in your family you have to take care of yourself first. Yes you have to be a little selfish so that you can be that person you need to be for your family. So stop what you are doing and Start making time for YOU.  I read a great saying the other day, “Your body is a temple, stop treating it like a graveyard”

 

So be SELFISH and TAKE TIME FOR YOU

 

 

Beyounique